According to Merriam-Webster:
1: unreasonably or perversely unyielding : mulish : justifiably unyielding : resolute : suggestive or typical of a strong stubborn nature <a stubborn jaw>
2: performed or carried on in an unyielding, obstinate, or persistent manner <stubborn effort>
3: difficult to handle, manage, or treat <a stubborn cold>
Ok, definitions one and two I can somewhat live with, but not three. :) Stubborn certainly never made it to my list of desired character qualities, it was number one on the other one - what I did NOT want to be like. I suppose it has its place though and paired with the right attitude and for a right purpose, it can even be a good thing. So, if my last ten years reflected some stubborness, it fortunately turned out to be a good thing as my aunt let me know as well that the job DID get done, and incredibly well for that matter (her words, not mine, jeje). Ay, ay, ay.
We learn when our eyes are ready to be opened don't we. I do regret not having trainings offered regarding professional growth and balance in my past, but am thankful I'm aware of it now and am being proactive about learning and rebuilding my boundaries. And of course, I do want to offer YOU the option to hear this now, so you don't have regrets later. In my twenties I focused mainly on developing as a person; the kind of woman I wanted to be and discovering my mission in life. And while developing personally of course benefits you on the job, I hadn't once thought about developing professionally as well. It's like I understood who I was and my different roles, but now I'm discovering that all those roles then require focused attention to grow them. I suppose it was growing-on-the-job's turn for my attention. :)
The One-Life Solution by Dr. Henry Cloud has turned out to be an excellent read. A bit dry at times, but he nails what a balanced work life should look like. Only five chapters in, so will post my complete thoughts on it when I finish it. Bottom line are boundaries though - if we desire to be healthy and balanced, we must figure out our boundaries and what causes them to come down in our work settings. Doing the self-checks he provides throughout the book show you your weaknesses and what you can do about them in order to become a self-controled person, the one thing we CAN control. It's about being an integrated person though, so it's a great book whether you're in a career or not. For those starting their careers though, I'd say it's a must read! The earlier good habits are put into place the BETTER.
All in all, it's been a great couple weeks on the job. I still feel like I turned the corner to my year so far and have already been seeing fruit from what it all helped me see and learn. Biggest thing has been finding my work voice though! Then little things like: leaving work on time. I had to sign up for gym classes to help me with this, which of course is a GOOD thing as well! I had let that go this year too and we all know the consequences of not staying physically balanced and healthy. I'm feeling good! Also not opening my work email on my BB after hours and on the weekends, because even though I may not answer a work email, by opening it I would be thinking about it. And lastly, not hitting the office on Saturday's, even for a quick something, something (there's always something right!)...it can wait until Monday. By doing this, I was able to meet with some new friends this morning to get my....FRENCH back!! I've always loved the language, studied it in college, but didn't keep it up. I loved it and loved challenging my brain to think outside of the work realm. :) We hope to continue meeting on a weekly basis, so be watching for the day I change my blog title to Trilingual Secretary! :) Just thought of another change, I should blog Friday's on my lunch, since by doing this on Saturday's, I'm thinking of work. :)
I'll be back next week with more thoughts on Dr. Cloud's book and will then get back into Stever Robbins' book. It's more practical and am looking forward to getting my thoughts structured on how I view to-do lists and multi-tasking.
To renewing my love of being an admin!
We learn when our eyes are ready to be opened don't we. I do regret not having trainings offered regarding professional growth and balance in my past, but am thankful I'm aware of it now and am being proactive about learning and rebuilding my boundaries. And of course, I do want to offer YOU the option to hear this now, so you don't have regrets later. In my twenties I focused mainly on developing as a person; the kind of woman I wanted to be and discovering my mission in life. And while developing personally of course benefits you on the job, I hadn't once thought about developing professionally as well. It's like I understood who I was and my different roles, but now I'm discovering that all those roles then require focused attention to grow them. I suppose it was growing-on-the-job's turn for my attention. :)
The One-Life Solution by Dr. Henry Cloud has turned out to be an excellent read. A bit dry at times, but he nails what a balanced work life should look like. Only five chapters in, so will post my complete thoughts on it when I finish it. Bottom line are boundaries though - if we desire to be healthy and balanced, we must figure out our boundaries and what causes them to come down in our work settings. Doing the self-checks he provides throughout the book show you your weaknesses and what you can do about them in order to become a self-controled person, the one thing we CAN control. It's about being an integrated person though, so it's a great book whether you're in a career or not. For those starting their careers though, I'd say it's a must read! The earlier good habits are put into place the BETTER.
All in all, it's been a great couple weeks on the job. I still feel like I turned the corner to my year so far and have already been seeing fruit from what it all helped me see and learn. Biggest thing has been finding my work voice though! Then little things like: leaving work on time. I had to sign up for gym classes to help me with this, which of course is a GOOD thing as well! I had let that go this year too and we all know the consequences of not staying physically balanced and healthy. I'm feeling good! Also not opening my work email on my BB after hours and on the weekends, because even though I may not answer a work email, by opening it I would be thinking about it. And lastly, not hitting the office on Saturday's, even for a quick something, something (there's always something right!)...it can wait until Monday. By doing this, I was able to meet with some new friends this morning to get my....FRENCH back!! I've always loved the language, studied it in college, but didn't keep it up. I loved it and loved challenging my brain to think outside of the work realm. :) We hope to continue meeting on a weekly basis, so be watching for the day I change my blog title to Trilingual Secretary! :) Just thought of another change, I should blog Friday's on my lunch, since by doing this on Saturday's, I'm thinking of work. :)
I'll be back next week with more thoughts on Dr. Cloud's book and will then get back into Stever Robbins' book. It's more practical and am looking forward to getting my thoughts structured on how I view to-do lists and multi-tasking.
To renewing my love of being an admin!
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